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Always A Mom

I am a grandma five times now plus one great grandson. Not too bad. I love it. But I will always be a mom.

In the back corner of my mind I thought that once the kids grew into adulthood and had their own families going, when their careers and schooling and such were all in tact, well, I thought somewhere in the crevices of my brain that I would be done being a mom.

Silly, I know. Because I think I am more a mom now than ever. What I mean by a “mom” is that my heart is bigger and more soft and vulnerable than when I spent many hours feeding, cleaning, burping, guiding, etc.

Now I have more time to look at what my children have become and are still growing into who they are. I give myself and my husband a great big pat on the back for who these kids are. And who their kids are becoming.

But as I watch, I cry. I cry tears of joy and silly sadness. One of my boys and his lovely wife is moving to the UK in just a few weeks! The UK!!! I live in the USA!!!

The good things are……. they will be there for a year (could be longer, who knows?). The better thing is that this is a dream come true for our son and his wife…..an opportunity to study at the University of Edinburg!

The BEST thing is that my husband and I will take our dream trip this Christmas and spend two glorious weeks in Scotland and a bit of Ireland! I’m beside myself with excitement! The child rearing years have paid off.

Then why the sadness you ask? Just knowing they are not and hour and a half away makes me cry a little. I actually feel a little lost. I go through that with our oldest and his family being twenty hours away by car.

I’ll make it. I couldn’t be more proud of all my kids.

But being a mom is hard.

Cate B

Here is a “seed” a friend sent me… my first spending money:

A Tribute to Moms, Mums, Mommies, Mama’s and Mother’s

Here, in the USA, we celebrate Mother’s Day once a year!  It falls on a Sunday and it happens to be tomorrow.  I do not know how many other nations celebrate their mothers – let me know in the comments.

It was awkward for me, as a child, to celebrate my mom.  I loved her and wanted to give her gifts.  But, she was a widow.  There was no father figure in our home and no one to go to to ask for money to buy her something.  I had to ask her, the very person you are buying for or making a gift for.  I think I did my best for a young child.

I want to thank my mom (who passed in 2001) for doing her best.  She had it hard as a child, herself.  She had it hard being left to raise three children without her husband.  She worked and provided well for us.  Thank you Mom.

Here is a great video honoring mothers of all sorts for their sacrifice and giving to their children. And to the mother’s who maybe you felt abandoned by or whatever the case may be – I will not justify their choices – but in reality, we do not know what they were going through on the inside, or the things they were told and taught by others.  As hard as it may be, choose to move on.  Don’t waste years of your life wishing it was better.  You may be a mom or a dad someday and your kids will need you to be present and well.

Happy Mother’s Day to all you moms!

Enjoy!

cate b

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