Tradition, Tradition! – My Memories of The Jersey Shore

Summer at the Jersey Shore can be a blast.  I loved growing up there.  And as any well raised child of the north east in the 1950s and 60s you learned what to wear and what not to wear.  At least in our household.

My mom cared how she looked when she left the house.  NEVER leave the house with curlers in your hair.  If we needed something from the store and her hair was still damp and wrapped up in curlers she did tie a kerchief over her head and waited at the far end of the parking lot while one of us ran in to grab the much needed item.  These were rare occasions.

Memorial Weekend marked the beginning of summer.  Pools opened, beaches opened, ice cream trucks came out in abundance.  Along with all these came the summer wardrobe.  Sandals and flip-flops (called thongs in our neighborhood), sunsuits, shorts, pedal pushers and clam diggers (cropped pants).  AND anything white.  No longer brown or black shoes – white or cream colored can now be worn.  My mom was serious about this!

And when the last weekend of summer came along, known as Labor Day Weekend, all beaches closed at the end of Monday.  Lifeguards went back to college, we all geared up for school.  We put away the white sandals and shoes.  We bought new brown ones and black ones.  Sigh.  We wore fall clothes to school in the still 80-90 degree weather.

We could change into shorts when we got home – thank goodness.  These were good times…….. but were they practical?  To this day I hesitate wearing sandals in the fall.  I said hesitate!  I do it anyway.  As much as certain styles were drilled into my head (like NEVER wear brown and navy blue together) I have broken tradition!  My style?  Whatever feels comfortable to me.  I’m all about comfort in clothes and styles.  If I walked through a Mall tomorrow and those fashion hounds saw me – I think I would qualify for their next make over.  They would tisk, tisk and shake their heads at my look.  Hey, you try having my hair that is so thick that all the  thinning and cutting and product in the world would not make it stick up.  Been there, and it doesn’t work.

A friend told me of her grand kids being aloud to dress themselves….. and when they came out in mismatched pants and shirts and two different socks on – they were praised and permitted to go about their day that way.  Because they were creative and permitted to be themselves.  Come on people!  Let us find who we are and create our own fashions.  More power to those who wear pajamas to Walmart (I won’t).

I have broken tradition and my kids grew up comfortable.  I hope.  Enjoy the summer months dear readers.  And enjoy being yourself.  Don’t know yet what you like?  You will.  I give you permission to break out of tradition and find who you are!  Be free!


cate b

Day Eight and Still Breathing!

It has been eight days of blogging so far for the November Challenge.  I have to admit that it’s not as bad as I thought.  Getting the blogs written and posted has been the easy part.

The hard part, for me, has been the fear and self doubt that comes at me with a vengeance.It is hard for me to hit “Publish” and then not check the number of views obsessively.  I need to relax. If they find me then they find me.  I have followed and liked and commented on other blogs in order to meet new people and check out different styles of creativity AND to build my followers.  That has not been very successful for me – yet, and that is discouraging.  I know I pressure myself and that is not good.  I need to breathe and relax and just blog my heart out because I like it.  So why wouldn’t others like it?  Huh?  I laugh at myself when I say this because I think I’m funny to think that others should love me as much as I love me.  Hahahaha.  Such an ego.

So I am learning that to get you must give.  I must read more and comment more and encourage others more even if I hate them for being so popular.  Hate is a strong word – I really am happy for their success, just a little envious.  There.  I said it.  I am envious of all these talented younger people that understand the techie talk and the social media words and acronyms.  I have my generation’s traditions stuck in my head and I’m trying hard to change.  My sons help me with this but they make me sound like a social media bigot.  I’m so sorry for that.  I do not want to be that way.

I still have it in me that I must wear shoes after labor day and they must be brown or black or navy.  Then on Memorial Day I can wear lighter coloured shoes and sandals.  I don’t follow that rule but the words of my mother pop into my head each year on those days.  So forgive me for that.  I am trying to stay current and learn new things and am trying to understand why everyone wants an email or a text yet won’t answer them.?.?.?.

Now that I got that off my chest, I want to say that the blogging challenge has been very good for me.  I am getting disciplined and accepting the challenges as opportunities to grow in this wonderful world of internet writing.  It is fun.  I love meeting people from all over the world and all the creativity out there is awesome!

So, read mine and follow me and comment.  I like interaction.  I enjoy learning from all my readers.

Enjoy!Blog On

cate b


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